Self-Pity
"Self-pity is a very pathetic form of arrogant defiance. It is a self-serving "cop-out" that says:
'I don't have to accept what-is...
I'm angry that this person or situation demands for Me to make adjustments...
I have a right to expect this and that, because of [blah, blah, blah], and plus - I, I, I, Me, Me, Me, My My, My and I, I, I, all agree that I, I, I have already figured out how everything and everyone is supposed to serve Me, Me, Me and gosh dang it... [blah, blah, blah...]
I want my way -- period!!!'
Every time we think, talk and be this way, we always end up totally stuck in a one way loop back to what we said we were through with, back to our spiteful 'Eeeny-verse' (Eeeny-verse - a teeny, tiny universe far, far away. This Eeeny-verse is a universe so small that there is only enough room for:
1. A very small version of ourselves (me, myself and I) and;
2. Our own selfish ego, pride, vanity and self-will.
How can we be "comfy" while living as this small creature who has "shrunk-to-fit" such a tight and miserable corner of existence? Let's expand our selves to the far corners of creation. Let's merge ourselves into the universe (uni = one, verse = word and uni + verse = one word. That one word is love). We are free to come on out of our false protective shells now and live love!!!
You see, dear ones, self-pity is only a mask used to hide our anger and arrogance when our tyranny over others doesn't work. No matter how long it takes -- arrogant, defiant self-pity always blows up right in our face. The longer we go on and on with the pity, the bigger the explosion.
Let us learn to content ourselves with the provisions and arrangements God has made for us. This 'pushy brat (male/female bitch rat), I'm going to control everything' approach only leads to desperate frustration. While, on the other hand, contentment and calm acceptance lead to inner and outward peace and harmony. Given the choice, why suffer the inescapable pain that pity brings when we can be free, through contentment -- right in the moment?
Let's perform every duty in every relationship (every relationship we have, including, family, neighbors, friends, school, work, play, etc.) as an act of loving devotional service to God and leave the results to God. Let's detach from the results of doing and being good. When we do every thing that we do for God only - period, we have no more need for pity. Why? Because when we give all of the results of everything we do to God, we end up with nothing to be upset about at all. And then we cannot avoid ending up very, very happy inside of our self. Even when every one else is being very difficult, we will still be OK inside -- because we are detached from the results and have no crazy entanglements with the false myth that self-servingness is the road to happiness. God is love, so when we serve love to everyone, we will automatically be serving God on-the-fly, as we zip back and forth between here and there.
Don't worry, when we have given all of the love we have, we will be given more than we had before we gave it all away. There is more love available to us than there are stars in the sky. There is no shortage of love. The shortage is of people who are willing to let love be in and through them. Those who are willing find love coming in and at them from every direction where star light reaches out from.
Love lives as an endless ocean, so we empty ourselves of all besides love and lovingly wait for the waves to wash upon the shores of our heart. However, we had better hold on to something. That is, unless we don't mind being carried away by the currents of love's ocean. There is an overtow in this ocean that carries us up and over all troubles -- to a new and better place -- every time we feel lost and hopeless. Ride the waves of love, float in love, flow towards the deepest parts of this shining, starry sea.
Just as with the physical ocean - we have to travel to get to it - so also must we make some effort to extend and expand ourselves into the ocean of love in and through our lives. Once we travel to this ocean through sincere and consistently detached effort at being loving, we will find that it embraces us totally with wave after wave of unending comfort and graceful inspiration.
Again, what need could we possibly have for self-pity when our entire inner space is being constantly filled with love as we swim in and merge with the ocean of love.
We are free to enter this sea now. There are kayaks and life vests for non-swimmers -- no need to worry -- just come on down. This is the only place where we can go now that it is safe to give up everything that we think is important and end up receiving everything that is truly important."
Salaam, Shalom, Peace Be, Love All!!!
- Dr. Through-With-It
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